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Shonkywonkydonkey on Etika's fans after his death
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![Lola commissions Follow LolaTempest Whenever a famous person commits suicide, the general consensus becomes that tweeting out phone numbers to suicide hotlines is the one thing that's gonna save all mentally ill people. But truth being, there are other things you can do, that have a far bigger impact [THREAD] 10:00 AM-25 Jun 2019 21,136 Retweets 37,687 Likes 221 t 21K 38K Tweet your reply Lola commissions @ LolaTem pest 23h More often than not, those lists only include 20 countries at most, anyway. Also, I dare say most mentally ill people are aware suicide prevention hotlines exists. The tragic reality is that suicidal people will often believe they cannot be helped. Or they won't want help at all. 6.7K t 686 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 23h Now, I am nota psychiatrist. But I am someone who suffers from bipolar type I and I sadly have had way too much experience with suicidal thoughts. I am also a young adult who's had these issues for almost a decade now, and who's talked to many many people with similar issues. 1 4.6K t 326 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 23h Forgive me if this is gonna sound harsh, but if you truly care about your friends" mental health issues, if you truly wanna help them, then tweeting out suicide prevention hotline number list once a year is very likely going to have absolutely no impact. t 1.1K 6.6K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 23h I'm not saying you should stop retweeting those lists!!!! There are many people who need the reminder that the hotlines exist!! The lists matter! I'm just saying that they are useless to most, and there are even better ways to help mentally ill people. 3 t 468 4.7K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 23h So, how can you help? What should you do when your friend feels down? What should you do in general to raise awareness of mental illness? 3.7K t 341 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 23h 1. As far as just retweeting and sharing stuff goes, sharing actual meaningful messages from mental health advocates/doctors/mentally ill people & sharing links to fundraisers is a good start. 2 4.9K t 693 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 23h stop saying things like "wow lol i'm not", "wow i poured too much salt on my food i'm so depressed lol". bipolar i was and hour ago and now statements like these contribute to the consensus that mental illness is nothing serious. 10 6,4K t 1.2K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h (now, to how to help a friend. i have to generalize here, remember that not all mental illnesses are the same. but i'll just mention some stuff that's pretty common and many people get wrong, so!:) 3.5K 1 t 281 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h 3. i know a natural response to a depressed friend might be "i'm here if you wanna vent". and sometimes venting helps. but one ugly thing venting does is.. that it doesn't help us get away from the negative mindset. venting can make us feel even worse. (emphasis on CAN) 5.2K t 782 commissions @LolaTempest 22h Lola Ive learnt that what really helps me when all my brain wants to do is vent is... to have a friend talk to me about ANYTHING but my issues. We talk about a movie, a video game, a book, any topic we both enjoy discussing. an eve 13 t 10K 5.9K commissions @LolaTem pest 22h Lola It might not work immediately. Or at all. But there's a chance it will genuinely help the depressed person think about something else for a change. If you can go out with them, that is also great, although a depressed person is more likely to not want to socialize. 4.3K t469 Lola commissions @LolaTem pest 22h 4. Check on them OFTEN. Let them know you really care. Let them know they're not alone. Let them know they matter. Again, you can't just magically fix a depressed brain by doing these things, but they really really CAN have an impact. 5.1K 4 t993 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h 5. If you feel like there's something seriously wrong going on, like your friend might need a stay at psychiatric hospital, then get in touch with whoever your friend lives with, or if that happens to be you, just go make the call. Depressed people will often feel like 4 t 446 3.7K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h they can't be helped which is why alone, we are helpless. Even if we ourselves had the option to call a suicide prevention hotline, a psychiatric hospital, we likely wouldn't do it. Depression completely clouds one's brain, makes them seriously delusional. ロ 410 3.7K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h 6. if your friend is on antidepressants, make sure they take their meds on schedule. make them take their meds of you have to. but do it with care, don't be aggressive. never be cold and aggressive with a depressed person. 6 1 494 3.7K commissions @LolaTempest 22h Lola Depressed people are prone to stop taking their meds completely because they might believe there is no point in taking them, or that the meds are just useless. 3.4K t 330 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h 7. When I'm depressed, the worst feeling to me is loneliness. Make sure your loved one isn't alone. I mentioned already to check on them often. This really matters. It might slowly help them realize they can trust you, and they might even end up coming to talk to you. t 768 4.1K Lola commissions @LolaTem pest 22h Even in really bad depressive episodes, there can sometimes be moments when one feels.. okay-ish for a bit. If you check on your friend often and show that you care, they might use that moment to come to you because you've made them feel like they don't have to be alone. 1 t 410 3.4K Lola @commissions @LolaTempest 22h They might not even want to vent when that happens. They might wanna chat, or do something with you. Play games, watch TV, cook. When something like this happens, be there for them. If you happen to be at work/school, text them often. Let them know you'll be there for them ASAP O 2 t360 3.2K commissions @LolaTempest 22h Lola 8. Generally, I think the best advice is to. Not abandon the depressed person, and really try to do more than just the bare minimum, because depressed brain doesn't think normally. t 678 3.8K Lola commissions @LolaTem pest 22h And when you feel like the situation is bad, when you get a bad feeling, CALL A HOSPITAL 4 29K t 288 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h 9. When you learn your friend/family member/loved one is mentally ill, do some research on your own, LEARN about the illness in question so you can better help them, be ready for crisis situations... as well as educate others. 2 t 524 3.3K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h When I got diagnosed, my mom did a.. lot of research. She never said how much but it's clear as ice to me she has learnt a LOT. And this reflects in the way she treats me even when I'm ok. As a result I know I can trust her. This s--- really matters, It makes a huge difference. 4 t 280 3.2K Lola @commissions @LolaTempest 22h (Thank you so much for reading this far. I might add to this th read if I think of more things to add... which is very likely. Again, just a reminder, I am no professional.Just a mentally ill person who wants to educate others the best I can because I live this.) 8 t 185 2.9K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 22h 10. If the person is suicidal and on meds, remember that antidepressants themselves ///can///make the person more likely to actually go through with suicide because they can help them regain the initiative. (they can have an effect of kind of making you "numb" and you can [..] 2 2.9K t 344 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 21h astate where you just don't care anymore). Check do ugly things in that state. on your friend often, don't just assume everything's fine when they don't seem to be extremely depressed anymore!!! 27 t 319 3.0K Lola commissions @LolaTempest 7h 11. Take their condition seriously and under no circumstances say thinqs like you're just doing it for attention', 'others have it worse, 'lol sure you're depressed'. 'you can't be depressed you're successful and loved'. Etc. 1 669 t 112 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 7h Saying things like this has a massive NEGATIVE impact on depressed mind. Don't mock them. Don't devalue their feelings. Instead, let them know their feelings are valid. Let them know you acknowledge that there is a problem and that you take it seriously. 1 620 t 80 Lola commissions @LolaTempest 7h When no one around us takes mental illness seriously, we'll begin to feel even more isolated, broken, and like it is impossible for us to heal, because how can anyone want to be there for us when people don't take us seriously? Why should. We want to exist, too? 2675 1 97](https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/masonry/001/507/623/f71.png "Pretty good thread on how to better combat suicide.")
