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Crossing the divide: Do men really have it easier? These transgender guys found the truth was more complex.> Are people really more likely to listen to men? Do women ever discriminate against them? Transgender men have a rare perspective on how both women and men experience life T'll never call the police again Trystan Cotten, 50, Berkeley, Calif. Professor of gender studies at California State University Stanislaus and editor of Transgress Press, which publishes books related to the transgender experience. Transitioned in 2008. One night somebody crashed a car into my neighbor's house, and I called 911. I walk out to talk to the police officer, and he pulls a gun on me and says, "Stop! Stop! Get on the ground!" I turn around to see if there's someone behind me, and he goes, "You! You! Get on the ground!" I'm in pajamas and barefoot. I get on the ground and he checks me, and afterward I said, "What was that all about?" He said, "You were moving kind of funny." Later, people told me, "Man, you're crazy. You never call the police." I get pulled over a lot more now. I got pulled over more in the first two years after my transition than I did the entire 20 years I was driving before that. Before, when I'd been stopped, even for real violations like driving 10o miles an hour, I got off. In fact, when it happened in Atlanta the officer and I got into a great conversation about the Braves. Now the first two questions they ask are: Do I have any weapons in the car, and am I on parole or probation? There are also ways in which men deal with sexism and gender oppression that I was not aware of when I was walking around in a female body. A couple of years after my transition, I had a grad student I'd been mentoring. She started coming on to me, stalking me, sending me emails and texts. My adviser and the dean-both women laughed it off. It went on for the better part of a year, and that was the year that I was going up for tenure. It was a very scary time. I felt very worried that if the student felt I was not returning her attentions she would claim that I had assaulted her. I fel like as a guy, I was not taken seriously. I had experienced harassment as a female person at another university and they had reacted immediately, sending a police escort with me to and from campus. I felt like if I had still been in my old body I would have gotten a lot more support. It's not only humiliating, but it creates anxiety on a daily basis. Before, I used to feel safe going up to a police officer ifI was lost or needed directions. But I don't do that anymore. I hike a lot, and if I'm out hiking and I see a dead body, I'll keep on walking. I'll never call the police again. It now feels as though I am on my owin Zander Keig, 52, San Diego Coast Guard veteran. Works at Naval Medical Center San Diego as a clinical social work case manager. Editor of anthologies about transgender men. Started transition in 2005. Prior to my transition, I was an outspoken radical feminist. I spoke up often, loudly and with confidence. I was encouraged to speak up. I was given awards for my efforts, literally- it was like, "Oh, yeah, speak up, speak out." When I speak up now, I am often given the direct or indirect message that I am "mansplaining," "taking up too much space" or "asserting my white male heterosexual privilege Never mind that I am a first-generation Mexican American, a t---------- man, and married to the same woman I was with prior to my transition. I find the assertion that I am now unable to speak out on issues I find important offensive and I refuse to allow anyone to silence me. My ability to empathize has grown exponentially, because I now factor men into my thinking and feeling about situations. Prior to my transition, I rarely considered how men experienced life or what they thought, wanted or liked about their lives. I have learned so much about the lives of men through my friendships with men, reading books and articles by and for men and through the men I serve as a licensed clinical social worker Social work is generally considered to be "female dominated, with women making up about 80 percent of the profession in the United States. Currently I work exclusively with clinical nurse case managers, but in my previous position, as a medical social worker working with chronically homeless military veterans mostly male-who were grappling with substance use disorder and severe mental illness, I was one o f a few men among dozens of women. Plenty of research shows that life events, medical conditions and family circumstances impact men and women differently. But when I would suggest that patient behavioral issues like anger or violence may be a symptom of trauma or depression, it would often get dismissed or outright challenged. The overarching theme was "men are violent" and there was "no excuse" for their actions. I do notice that some women do expect me to acquiesce or concede to them more now: Let them speak first, let them board the bus first, let them sit down first, and so on. I also notice that in public spaces men are more collegial with me, which they express through verbal and nonverbal messages: head lifting when passing me on the sidewalk and using terms like "brother" and "boss man" to acknowledge me. As a former lesbian feminist, I was put off by the way that some women want to be treated by me, now that I am a man, because it violates a foundational belief I carry, which is that women are fully capable human beings who do not need men to acquiesce or concede to them. What continues to strike me is the significant reduction in friendliness and kindness now extended to me in public spaces. It now feels as though I am on my own: No one, outside of family and close friends, is paying any attention to my well-being.

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